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A Woman's Plimsoll Line: an excerpt from my memoir



September 30, 2010

I found an interesting article on the internet about a woman’s plimsoll line. I didn’t even know what a plimsoll line was until I read it. It’s a marked waterline on the side of a ship used by sailors to let them know when the boat is filled and can’t take on any more cargo.

If you look at a plimsoll line as the “last straw” or “crossing the line,” then this analogy works very well for women who are/were abused or victims of infidelity. I hit my plimsoll line this year. I couldn’t take on any more of his nonsense. My burden over the years accumulated and it became too great to bear. . .
 
Each woman's plimsoll line is unique. Each woman's burden is her own, to carry, or discharge if the line is breached.
 
I remember drawing that line, on the kitchen table, back in February. I told him, "This is the line. I am here. She is there, on the other side. You need to choose."
 
What I didn't know then was that the choice was really mine, and had been all along.
 

2 comments:

Amy Freeman said...

Yep. I remember reaching this line. Some women are so ensnared by the abuse they never get there. They don't reach it until it's too late. I am so grateful I did. I think about what my life would like had I not reached it and I can't imagine where I would be.

Susan said...

Wow, Amy. It's a scary thought to think some women never reach it. I shudder to think what my life would be like if I didn't leave. I was so miserable, so lonely, and so damaged.
I am still damaged, but have hope that one day I will be on the healing step.
You are so blessed you were able to find a good husband after your harrowing experience the first time.
Thanks so much for your comment.