By Susan Knight
I look down and see my old friend, the Anger Step, looming up at me, beckoning.
It's a quick hop down to Anger and I've jumped to it many times in the last four years or so. I can't help myself.
Anger is part of the terrible-awful flashbacks I get from time to time. Anger triggers them in its own resourceful way.
Now I'm asking for help here--opinions. If I was supposed to get a sum from him, say, like, half of a yearly bonus, would I get half of the bonus, or have to wait until he pays the federal, state, local governments, social security and other sundrie taxes, then I get half of what is left?
And if you were to pay your wife alimony, say half of your bonus, would you pay half of the bonus, or half of the net of the bonus? Keep in mind I have yet to pay taxes on this alimony and he gets a tax break for alimony on his income taxes.
I end up paying taxes twice. I'm paying taxes for where he lives and works. I don't live there or work there. Should I have to pay?
I'm just asking.
There might be someone who reads here that will know the answer to this.
Keep in mind, my only alimony is half of his bonus. He was getting quarterly bonuses and now seems to only get one bonus a year. At least that's what he sends me the remains of.
I'd like to know.
I'm perched, ready to jump to Anger soon. I've become adept at jumping around Anger and Resentment and back to Abuse, because I feel like I'm being taken advantage of again.
Do I jump back to the Courage Step and see if I should get the lawyer again and open up another can of worms? Or do I just let him get away with this and let him think he can take advantage of me, as always?
Getting ready to hop. Someone please stop me.